Category: TRIVIA


TRIVIA 0048 – FATHER OF THE GROOM SPEECH – SOME POINTERS

 

SOURCE: INTERNET FILES

 

NOTE NO. 1

“I can still remember giving my Groom Wedding Speech a number of years ago. For myself, it was not a actual complicated procedure due to the fact I had been involved with Toastmasters for over five several years. However, for some men, delivering a groom wedding speech can be a huge headache for them because they aren’t confident about speaking in public. If I can provide you with one piece of advice about giving your wedding speech, just recall that it’s just a heart to heart speak. You seriously don’t must be a beneficial speaker. You really don’t have to get hilarious. You just have to get sincere.

Now that I’ve told you that you don’t have to be beneficial or humorous, you are almost certainly wondering what the secret is to giving a excellent groom wedding speech. The key is right preparation and planning. Appropriate planning will consist of things like things like utilizing wedding planning books and guides to prepare your wedding chat. I utilized a guide that I bought on the web to assist me in writing a wedding speech. There were tons of groom wedding speech examples and this truly helped me out. All I did was use a person with the templates and add my own words to generate it quite personable.

The speech guide integrated a lot of wedding examples speeches including father from the bride speech and best man toasts. I learned that I necessary to coordinate with my best man, father from the bride, and my bride about what I was going to say. I truly did not wish to repeat what they had been preparing to say. Additionally, I didn’t want to throw any surprises in my grooms speech that would embarrass everyone in the wedding party or guests. A beneficial top quality wedding guide will aid you all all these matters.

The easiest way for me to plan and write my wedding speech was to utilize the groom wedding speech template and then record my speech on my pc and play it back. This gave me the confidence that I necessary to offer a heartwarming wedding discuss.

Since your wedding is a single particular in the most significant days of your respective respective life, you must give a speech which is organized and remembered by all. Just don’t not steal the limelight from your bride.

It is constantly fun to explain how the two of you met and also a couple of hilarious issues that happened during your courtship. Never worry about saying well-known quotes or words of wisdom that did not come from you. In the event you are not witty, then don’t pretend.

Talk briefly (not minutes) to thank people who contributed to making the wedding a success. Thank your in-laws, parents, brothers and sisters, and all men and women else including the wedding party who made this a extremely unique morning. Most significant all, thank your bride!

Just to make certain that you have integrated every person. Explain in a nice way that you just simply are a little nervous and are unable to bear in mind everybody. Apologize for forgetting any person and move on.

Some of one’s guests like hilarious groom speeches and some usually don’t. If it is possible to be hilarious and get away with it by all means do it. But for those who usually are not amusing, grooms speech jokes have a tendency to let the wind out of one’s sails. Worse yet, your bride will also be embarrassed. I would look on YouTube for some humorous wedding speeches and come across out what works and what doesn’t.

I desire to caution you to use humor with extreme care as you truly will not should hurt anyone’s feelings. Your wedding day could turn into a family feud and be remembered for ever as that.

If you are going to make fun of anybody, joke about yourself and your best man.

The best man toasts tend for making exciting from the groom so expect retribution in-kind.

Father Of the Bride Speech can be another integral part of your wedding working day. I talked with my father-in-law usually about my wedding day. Your future father-in-law may be your greatest ally in delivering your wedding speech. I said only details that would create him up as a guy as well as a leader. He will return the favor when he delivers his tribute to you and also the bride. Seriously don’t feel poor if he forgets to mention you at all. It is his daughter that he’s loosing. Actually feel lucky if he smiles at you.

You are intending to must coordinate with your best man prior to you give your groom speech. He is planning to roast you in the course of the best man toast. Set the ground rules firmly. You will be going to have to know a number of the details of how he is likely to embarrass you. As long as he does not chat about past relationships, old girlfriends, or stupid things that will incriminate you, this is okay. The bride is completely off-limits. He will not say anything to embarrass her.

The best man wedding speech is actually a time-honored tradition. Nearly all Western weddings incorporate this. As I mentioned prior to, the two of you must converse about what you will be intending to say and what you are not intending to say. Just recall that the bride is off-limits and he are unable to converse about any other women that have been in your life. You are heading to get a severe ribbing and you’d far greater take it like a dude and enjoy it. Let him know that he is not to consume any alcohol at all until after he delivers the best man toast.

Wedding planning books are a wonderful method to stay organized and make your working morning simple. These planning publications will offer you sample speeches, wedding speeches order, and wedding speech templates. My advise is to use numerous guides. Most are priced less than $25. Acquire your self a wedding guide like the one that I employed for making you sound like a million bucks in your wedding day. Planning guides will support you from beginning to end.”


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NOTE NO. 2

In order to impress your son, family, and the guests, your father of the groom speech should start with a great opener. 

A great opening will undoubtedly create beautiful memories and captivate the wedding guests.

Since a strong opening is critical to grabbing the attention of the audience, you should prepare way ahead of time so you don’t come off as a boring speaker.

Though the master of ceremonies might introduce you before you speak, you have to tell the audience who you are and your relationship to the groom when you grab the mic. For instance…you can say

I am Bob and Mike’s dad.

After, you should greet the audience and express appreciation to the guests for coming .Wedding speech etiquette demands that you do just that.

Here Are Useful Pointers To Help You Give A Memorable Introduction:

You can start off with a funny story or even begin with a joke if you are a naturally funny person. Avoid it if you are not. You might embarrass yourself if you force yourself to do something hilarious. It is best to stick to a style that you can do best.

You can also begin with a quote on marriage or share your personal reflections about the joy of parenting.

To make it more memorable, you can put your opening lines in song, poetry or have it dramatized.

Storytelling can add a bite to your presentation. So, if you know of any story that is connected to marriage, you can make use of it. Interesting stories about your son will also be fine.

After you have greeted the audience, you should thank the organizers, your own family, those who were instrumental in his upbringing and everyone in the room.

Your opening lines of your father of the groom speech can also be used to thank your in-laws for their help and support. Particularly the brides’ parents.
You may begin with a personal story of how you got married and share some lessons from it.

PLEASE NOTE: As you speak, do not reveal any details that will embarrass your boy— issues like mentioning his soft spots, past relationships, and so on.

Here Is An Example

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”Good evening Ladies and Gentleman. I am Bob and Mike’s dad. On behalf of my wife Ruth, we are so thankful to you all for being part of this great day. Great people like you make the world a merry place. We’d also like to thank Jerry and Angela (the bride’s dad and mom) for their help and support ’’

Hope that is clear.

Aside grabbing the attention of the audience, a memorable father of the groom speech opener will make your son and family proud and relieve you of tension if done very well.

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NOTE NO. 3

Parents of the Groom Speech

Wishing the Couple Well

The groom’s parents’ speech is a relatively new addition to the wedding speech lineup. Traditionally only three speeches were given: the parents of the bride speech, the groom’s speech and the best man’s speech. Today, more of the couple’s loved ones are taking the opportunity to openly wish the couple well and share words of wisdom. Having raised and loved the groom his entire life the groom’s parents have certainly earned the right to give a speech.

Start by acknowledging the toast of the previous speaker. It will likely be the best man or the maid of honor. Now thank the guests. You may want to keep this brief as the guests have been thanked profusely by this point. Perhaps call attention to the guests on your side of the family that traveled far to attend the wedding.

If the bride’s parents acknowledged your contributions to the wedding now is the time to reply in kind. If the couple paid for the wedding themselves commend them on their exceptional achievement. Also use this opportunity to honor the joining of the two families. A simple heartfelt message works best. Praise the virtues of your charming new daughter-in-law. Also express your gratitude to the bride’s parents at how completely they’ve welcomed your son into their family. If appropriate, relate a happy incident of when you and your wife’s families bonded together as one. In short, express your solidarity with the bride’s family.

This next part of your speech is devoted to your son. Tell him how handsome he looks. Compliment him on the success of the wedding. Share some of your favorite memories of the groom’s childhood – those moments that feel “just like yesterday”. And of course let your son know how much he means to you. Don’t be afraid to display your emotions. A wedding is one of those rare events where the guests are expecting some tears!

Now offer some words of wisdom to the couple. This can be a humorous anecdote drawn from experience, a fitting quote or a sweet poem. Your advice should provide a lighthearted view on the joys and tribulations of marriage. Your speech concludes with a toast to the couple’s future joy and good fortune. If another speaker is to follow (either the maid of honor or the bride) a toast should also be made in their name.

If you decide to have only one person give the speech (usually the father) be sure your comments include your partner. As your speech expresses both your thoughts and feelings both should stand at the microphone or podium.

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NOTE NO. 4

Wedding Speech Ideas

Unique Ideas for Your Speech

Whether it’s stage fright, or simply not knowing what to say, giving a wedding speech is a nerve-wracking ordeal for many people. However, for every reason not to give a regular speech there are even more reasons to give a wedding speech. This isn’t just any speech, nor is this just any audience. These are your closest friends and family – they’re not there to judge you. In fact, most of the guests will commend you on your willingness to say a few words. Of all the reasons to give a wedding speech the most important is how much it will mean to the bride and groom. Only those closest to the bride are groom give a wedding speech – it’s an honor to be asked. By keeping that in mind, giving your speech may be less nerve-wracking (and more fun!) than you first anticipated.

If it’s simply a matter of not knowing what to say the more traditional wedding speeches, (including the parents of the bride speech, best man’s speech and groom’s speech) already have established expectations. The bride’s parents’ speech is normally sweet and sentimental, the groom’s speech is a formal thank you and the best man’s speech is the funniest of them all. If your speech doesn’t fall into any of these categories don’t worry. The following tips and ideas can get you off to a good start:

  • Express your gratitude: whether being honored with a role in the wedding party, or simply being invited to the wedding, let the couple know how much you appreciate being part of their special day.
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  • Focus on the bride and groom: share your favorite memories and stories of the bride or groom. These can be humorous or sentimental – it’s up to you. Just make sure the stories can be shared – don’t spill any secrets!
  • Nothing offensive: keep the stories and jokes appropriate – keep in mind the differences in age and background of the guests.
  • Compliments all around: tell the couple how beautiful they look, why they make such a great a couple and how wonderful the wedding has been. Feel free to compliment those that had a hand in the wedding’s success: the parents, the wedding party and others.
  • Keep it relevant: ensure your speech can be enjoyed by all. Don’t slant your content to one side of the family only and no inside jokes.
  • Words of wisdom: whether it’s an anecdote from personal experience, a humorous quote or a sentimental poem offer a lighthearted opinion on the ups and downs of marriage.
  • Cheers: offer a wedding toast to the couple or others that deserve the extra attention.

Keep your wedding speech to 3-5 minutes long. As a last word of advice, don’t be afraid to display your emotions. It shows the true depth of your love for the couple for which you should never feel ashamed.

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TRIVIA 0047: ABOUT CUBA

TRIVIA 0047: ABOUT CUBA

 

Cuba, Castro, Philippines

 

By: Michael L. Tan@inquirerdotnet

Philippine Daily Inquirer / 01:09 AM November 30, 2016

 

To understand Cuba’s history and Fidel Castro is to better understand our own history, and especially what our future might be. Both countries share a history of Spanish and American colonialism, and many other historical circumstances.  Both countries have been crucial in American geopolitics: Cuba just 150 kilometers away from Florida, the Philippines a gateway to Asia.

 

Spanish colonialism

 

Cuba’s occupation by Spain started in 1492, earlier than the Philippines,’ but converging with the latter in the 19th century. Spain lost many of its Latin American territories during the 19th century, with Cuba and the Philippines remaining as their most prized possessions. When unrest broke out toward the end of the century, Spain responded with full force. It was much worse in Cuba, where people were herded into reconcentrados, said to be the predecessors of concentration camps. Some 200,000 to 400,000 Cubans died in these camps.

 

 

As unrest in Cuba spread, the United States, its giant Big Brother, began to worry about its economic interests on the island. (Don’t think of some tiny atoll; Cuba is about a third of the size of the Philippines, still sizeable.)

 

The United States sent in a ship, the Maine; but on Feb. 15, 1898, the ship exploded while docked in Havana’s harbor. Spain was blamed and the Spanish-American war broke out in April. Among the battles fought between Spain and the Philippines was that of Manila Bay on May 1, 1898, an almost farcicial encounter between Spain’s obsolete naval vessels and the more modern US fleet.

 

A debilitated Spain agreed to meet with the United States to hammer out a peace treaty. US President William McKinley instructed his negotiators to go for the entire Philippines, not just Mindanao, which was what Spain had intended to give up. America got its way in the Treaty of Paris, where they got Puerto Rico, Guam and the Philippines; it paid $20 million for our islands, never mind that Filipino revolutionaries had declared Asia’s first republic. The Philippine-American War broke out shortly after the US Senate ratified that treaty; it was a war that saw some 200,000 Filipino casualties, mostly civilians.

 

Spain agreed to Cuban independence, but the United States, through a Platt amendment to the Treaty of Paris, retained the right to intervene in Cuban affairs, particularly in finances and foreign relations. It also obtained a lease on Guantanamo Bay, where it built a naval base.

 

Cuban independence was declared in 1902, but in the decades that followed, the United States intervened repeatedly in Cuban affairs, including actual occupation of the country in 1906. The occupation was brief, but America did not have to worry about its control over Cuba, with its hold on the economy and its politicians.

 

Starting in 1934, Cuban politics was dominated by Gen. Fulgencio Batista, who was president from 1940 to 1944 and then from 1952 until 1959. Cuba actually became fairly advanced economically in the 1950s, but marred with its gross neglect of rural areas and rampant corruption. Fidel Castro, a young lawyer, launched a long rebellion that ended in victory in January 1959.

 

The United States was initially pleased with, but wary of the new government, with suspicions that Castro was a communist. As early as March 1960, US President Dwight Eisenhower approved a plan of covert action against Cuba.  Castro in turn became more openly Left, declaring himself a socialist then a communist.  (It turns out though he had been a communist as early as 1947, while in law school.)

 

This was the height of the Cold War and the United States was worried about a communist neighbor so close to its border. It went all out against Fidel Castro, imposing sanctions and financing Cuban exiles to launch a Bay of Pigs invasion in April 1961. Castro in turn drifted toward the Soviet Union. In October 1962, the entire world was plunged into a Cuban missile crisis when the United States  discovered that the Soviets had been installing nuclear missiles in Cuba; the world never came so close to a nuclear war. The Soviets finally agreed to withdraw the missiles in exchange for the United States’ withdrawing similar warheads in Italy and Turkey.

 

Human rights

 

At home, from 1959 to 1966, Castro had to deal with a rebellion waged by the old regime and anticommunist forces. Some 3,200 Cubans were executed during this period, mainly politicians, police and informers from the former regime. Reports of torture and detention were to continue throughout Castro’s regime, and history will have to judge this record against the backdrop of continuing US pressure on Cuba, including several assassination attempts on Castro.

 

After the Soviet Union fell in 1991, support for Cuba came to a standstill. With the US embargo forbidding any kind of trade and assistance to the island nation, Cuba had to find ways to sustain its economy. China later came in, and in recent years, two leftist governments—in Venezuela (itself now in crisis) and Ecuador.

 

Cuba did develop into a model for health, education and social services, as well as for biotechnology, and it is classified “high” in terms of UNDP’s Human Development Index even if its economic indicators are low. (Our own health secretary visited Cuba shortly after assuming office and returned convinced that we should learn from the Cuban model, which emphasizes primary health care services at the level of communities.)

 

In 2008, Castro turned power over to his brother Raul, and as Cuba moved to more liberal policies, relations with the United States have thawed, with President Obama visiting earlier this year. There are concerns now that US president-elect Donald Trump will be less friendly to Cuba.

 

While Castro has been vilified as a dictator and a human rights violator (his death was welcomed with celebrations in Florida by Cuban exiles), the response inside Cuba has been one of massive grief and mourning for a leader known for his dedication to the nation and a simple life, and untainted with corruption despite 50 years of power. Outside of Cuba, he has been eulogized by politicians—communist and noncommunist alike—for standing up against his giant neighbor.

 

Castro has been cremated, his ashes now making a long journey across the country before interment. It should be a time for Filipinos to reflect as well the sharp similarities and contrasts between Cuba and the Philippines, such as Castro’s burial and Marcos’.

 

We should be thinking, too, of our current government and its drift away from the United States. The Cold War may have ended, but the Philippines definitely faces foreign policy challenges similar to those confronted by Cuba in the 1960s. Will Duterte be deft enough to maneuver around the superpowers?

 

mtan@inquirer.com.ph

 

TRIVIA 0045: MASSACRE OF MUSLIMS UNDER MARTIAL LAW

History beyond Bud Dajo obscured

By: Antonio Montalvan II

@inquirerdotnet

Philippine Daily Inquirer

12:58 AM September 26th, 2016

IT WAS the Maguindanao Moro filmmaker Teng Mangansakan who alerted me to a forgotten past. Last August, Teng revisited the place that had become rather obscure in the Mindanao mind. It is called Malisbong, but few would want to remember the name, let alone inconvenience themselves with a Google map for a search. Even the remaining living survivors would rather blur their memories of a ghastly carnage that only men who don’t believe in human dignity can carry out without mercy.

The Malisbong Massacre, also known as the Tacbil Mosque Massacre, left 1,776 Moro men aged 11 to 70 dead in the coastal hamlet of the same name in the town of Palembang, Sultan Kudarat. They were killed inside the mosque, where 3,000 women and children were also being detained, some of them even raped. On that horrifying day of Sept. 24, 1974—that is, two years to the day after then President Ferdinand Marcos announced that martial law had been imposed on the entire Philippine archipelago, or exactly 42 two years ago last Saturday—elements of the Philippine Army razed to the ground 300 houses.

Malisbong was an overture to what was to become a long thunder of massacres against the Moro people that at one instant had reached almost genocidal magnitude, such that it caught the attention of Islamic countries and helped shape what later emerged as the flamboyant Imelda diplomacy during the dictatorship years—a kind of diplomacy that was more fashion niceties than mediation.

The film “Forbidden Memory,” based on the Malisbong Massacre and directed by Teng Mangansakan, was screened as a finalist in the 12th Cinema One Originals film festival. Recalling Malisbong, a statement by a student of mine bothered me no end—“martial law is taught in neutral terms.”

The murder of 1,776 men can never be neutral; 1,776 deaths committed to the memory of survivors as the most abysmal nightmare of their lives can never be neutral. So were the other deaths caused by the Marcos dictatorship. There is only good and evil; any in-between is pseudo.

Mohagher Iqbal, the “magus” of the Bangsamoro, a learned person of great wisdom, writing as Salah Jubair in “Bangsamoro, A Nation Under Endless Tyranny,” adroitly enumerates the list of Moro massacres committed by proxies of the authoritarian barbarism under the aegis of Ferdinand Marcos.

In a prelude to martial law, a Kinaray-a settler, Feliciano Luces, known by the alias Commander Toothpick, led an attack on an isolated Moro village in 1970. The victims’ ears were cut off, nipples slashed, eyes plucked out, and cross markings left on their mutilated bodies. That was the start of the so-called Ilaga Wars (Ilaga for rat, the “voracious creature infesting crops,” Jubair writes, but which others had deciphered as “Ilonggo Land Grabbers Association”).

Of the Moro massacres, the patriot Joe Burgos’ Pahayagang Malaya reported: “The list is long, but it can be compressed into one single horrifying theme—a near absolute lawlessness armed and protected by government officials and the military in remote corners of Mindanao to look for and kill Muslim rebels, and whoever they believe to be their sympathizers.”

The rampage took place in various places:

Alamada (North Cotabato), Dec. 3, 1970, 13 killed; Midsayap (North Cotabato), Dec. 16, 1970, 18 killed; Alamada, Jan. 17, 1971, 73 killed, 36 houses burned; Carmen (North Cotabato), April 6, 1971 and June 19, 1971, 88 killed, 42 wounded; Wa-o (Lanao del Sur), Aug. 5, 1971, 36 killed; Buldon (Maguindanao), Aug. 9, 1971, 60 killed; Magsaysay (Lanao del Norte), Oct. 24, 1971, 66 killed. I have to cut short the list for want of space.

Archival research at the National Library and at the UST Miguel de Benavides Library can be an excruciating ordeal: There just was hardly any national news on these massacres; Mindanao was boondocks to Manila then. (It still is?) Everything was filtered; the name Ilaga hardly surfaced because its existence was deliberately denied. There was only one source of news—Moro congressmen like Salipada Pendatun.

A pattern was observable in the old periodicals—each time a team was sent to Mindanao, the only source was Carlos Cajelo who was behind the Ilaga. Marcos later appointed Cajelo as deputy defense minister for civil relations. Marcos knew everything about the Ilaga Wars—he even invited Toothpick to Malacañang and hailed him a hero.

There were many more massacres, but there are scant data about them for research. One, the Bingcul Village Massacre of 1977, had government forces raiding and burning houses, killing 42 Moro villagers. In most cases, the Ilaga fighters not only conspired with the government’s Philippine Constabulary (later integrated into the civilian police force that was renamed Integrated National Police, the forerunner of today’s Philippine National Police), they were also supported by seven thug settler-mayors who each were backed by an army of private goons.

Filtering the news out of Mindanao during the martial law period was made difficult by the “blitzkrieg” Marcos launched against media the day after declaring martial law in 1972: Nationwide, the “casualties” were eight major English newspapers, 18 vernacular newspapers, 60 community newspapers, 66 television channels, 312 radio stations. By the time the Mindanao wars raged, a news blackout was almost in effect.

There was more to Mindanao than just the 1906 Battle of Bud Dajo where a thousand Moros were slain in America’s pursuit of colonial hegemony. A massacre is a massacre; whether committed by colonials or by a Filipino dictator like Marcos, an accounting is demanded.

Justice is color-blind. Neutrality is only for cowards who aspire by mere idiocy.